The experience of dating, while often interesting and fun, has its daunting moments too: unpleasant dates, disappointments and discomfort when faced with someone you genuinely don’t want to see again. As a result of frustrating and horrible dating experiences, men and women often fail to uphold dating standards or expectations out of fear of being alone.
Many men and women, truly deserving and ready for love, sacrifice their happiness, peace of mind and principals to have a partner, but this isn’t the true love God wants us to experience. A love rooted in Christ is not a love birthed from misery, compromised standards or unhappiness for the sake of partnership. God’s idea of partnership is a person who leads you closer to Him, a person who is not deceived by another steering clear of His name.
In fact, God clearly commands His children avoid settling, steering clear of relationships rooted in impiety: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14).
If your inner compass is off-kilter, allow God to lead the way.
The truth is, people do not necessarily lower their standards because they consciously want to be mistreated or be in a relationship with someone unequally yoked.
People typically lower their standards because they are hoping for the best—dating for potential—ignoring the signs of the bad outweighing the good, all for the sake of having someone in their life.
Dating is the foundation for marriage, and while every relationship will have its ups and downs, not being treated with the utmost respect may cause a person to be more susceptible to settling. The problem is, people become comfortable in toxic situations, keeping their fingers crossed about their partner’s potential. Being alone may hurt, but do you know what’s worse than being alone? Spending your best days feeling miserable while in a toxic relationship.
Stop feeding yourself the lies of “He’s not that mean” or “She tells me I won’t find anyone better.” No more rationalizing.
Recognize the valuable truth that, as long as you waste time with someone who does not meet your standards, not only will your self-worth suffer but other opportunities will be squandered as well—you may be missing out on the chance to either live a happy life alone or in the company of someone God-sent.
The devil is often disguised as fear and insecurity, among other nasty disguises, all of which stop us from following our truth. If your inner compass is off-kilter, allow God to lead the way.
Let God be the reason you seek out a healthy relationship, free from lowered standards and compromised morals.
He will direct you to your best match, and your best match will not be a compromise rooted in the misery of confusion. Be confident in the endeavor of finding a partner deeply rooted in Christ, because when a person’s heart and mind are rooted in His Word, the seeds of your relationship will sprout joy, peace, happiness and safety.
No one can stop God when he’s leading the way.
God wants each of us to be blissful, luminous participants of love, and once you align yourself with people and situations who mirror your wants, needs and standards, you will live your best life, limiting dating disappointments, stress and inner turmoil.
Your life will be free from anxiety, and you’ll no longer be wondering if love should be more than a series of disappointing occurrences and sad days with the wrong person.
Time is precious.
Refuse to settle.
No one can stop God when he’s leading the way. He will lead you to be courageous enough to stand true to the standards you have in place for your best love life.
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