The #1 Wrong Place We Look for Answers and Where We Should Really Be Looking


After many dead ends, I finally realized something invaluable—the answers were always there, I was just looking in the wrong place.


In my 20s, I used to run to my friends for advice. At the time, I believed I didn’t know what to think or what to do. My emotional intelligence had yet to peak, and quite honestly, I failed to make continual, wise decisions. So, any situation, big or small, I shrugged off faith-based outlets and, instead, sought the help of my closest girlfriends.

Work issues?

I asked for their advice.

Relationship woes?

I asked for advice on this, too.

Financial input?

You guessed it—I sought their counsel.

Although many of those friendships are no longer in my life, I realized that I relied on these people for everything, and I mean everything, to the point where I wasn’t praying first or even diving deep into myself for the answers, let alone seeking the help of my wonderful and wise family members.

Don’t get me wrong—there’s nothing wrong with seeking advice from a loved one, but the book of Proverbs shares the importance of seeking instruction from a faith-filled, God-fearing person. Nevertheless, you live and learn, right? As a woman in her 30s, I now consider someone’s 20s their most formidable years (and often the most difficult in terms of growing pains.)

“The simple believes everything, but the prudent gives thought to his steps” (Proverbs 14:15).

With time, disappointment, broken trust and poor advice, I realized something invaluable—the answers were always there, and I don’t mean with my friends. I may have thought I was confused, clueless or lost, which led me to quickly seek the help of my peers, but I had a trusted guide all along—the Bible. 

Listen to counsel and receive instruction,
That you may be wise in your latter days.
There are many plans in a man’s heart,
Nevertheless the Lord’s counsel—that will stand.
(Proverbs 19:20-21).

God’s wisdom, assurance and comfort are within the pages of the Bible. However, until a person knows this and seeks this trusted, wise counsel, the advice remains untapped. God’s word provides wisdom and guidance for all problems, and during the times in which you read the Bible yet still feel conflicted, take the time to say a prayer and ask God to impart His wisdom into your heart.

Remember—the enemy is always hard at work against God’s children. He seeks to destroy, especially through our emotions: “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10). 

Do not fall into the enemy’s trap and begin to think that the answers to your problems are too hard to decipher or seek within the Bible or that God does not have time to listen to your prayers. There is nothing too big or too small for God, and He wants us to be closely connected to Him at all times, which means diving into the Bible and desiring His wisdom in our lives.

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” (Matthew 7:7).

Trust in the fact that you can gain knowledge, clarity and understanding through God’s Word. He wants to impart his knowledge and wisdom into your life, and it is up to us to unlock that wisdom by taking the time to read and study the best source of advice we could pray for—the Holy Bible.