Rachel Hollis’ New Book, ‘Girl, Stop Apologizing’ Shows Us How to Dream Big


Rachel Hollis has proven to be an incredibly inspirational author in recent years. We read her newest book and it comes as no surprise that it was a delight.



In 2018, Rachel Hollis was everywhere. Although she had written multiple books in recent years, it was her self-help debut, Girl, Wash Your Face, that proved to be her runaway hit. The book took a little while to gain popularity, but hit the New York Times Best Seller list two months after its release. By the end of 2018, it was Amazon’s second-most popular book.

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Hollis boldly pursues all her dreams–a successful business, a beautiful family, affluence, health and international notoriety. Additionally, she’s a Christian. In her community, it’s often taboo to say aloud that you have ambition and aspirations. Instead, women are encouraged to sacrifice their dreams for the needs of others. However, Hollis is shattering that taboo. Her desires are resonating with women everywhere who also have big aspirations for their lives. She boldly says aloud what so many women have whispered silently to themselves for years. If Hollis’ ambitious message feels resonant, you’re bound to love her newly released book, Girl, Stop Apologizing.

Girl, Stop Apologizing is an incredibly quick read—I personally inhaled it over the course of a rainy weekend. It’s particularly helpful if you have entrepreneurial ambitions and need encouragement as you’re establishing your business. Here are some of the book’s standout themes:

Ladies, You’re Allowed to Dream Big

Hollis explains that she was “raised in a Christian environment where women were praised for self-sacrifice, not self-care.” She wisely recognizes that her readers may have also been taught to dream small, but Hollis eagerly offers a fresh narrative. “I’d been taught to play small, but I had been born with a heart that only dreamed big…. My dreams weren’t just a part of me; they were the core of who I was. They were a gift from God, and if my Creator endowed me with something, how could it be wrong?”

Girls, stop comparing your beginning with my middle! Or anyone else’s for that matter.

While there are many people who give lip-service to dreaming big, they’re often not living examples of what can happen if you do. Hollis puts her words into action as she radiates a life full of big dreams coming to pass. She’s a compelling combination of both a motivational wordsmith and a practical example of what happens when motivational words are put into action.

Comparison Steals Your Joy

We’ve always compared ourselves to others. However, with social media’s maturation into a mainstream media source, this unhealthy inclination has only been magnified. Hollis recognizes that with her high level of visibility, countless women are comparing themselves to her.  She points out that you can never truly know someone who just lives within your Instagram feed. “The deal with any sort of fame is: you don’t know me. You only know your perception of me.”

Hollis is sometimes overwhelmed with the influx of women messaging her on Instagram. They’re seeking her guidance, but they often reveal an underlying sense of jealousy because they haven’t yet achieved Hollis’ level of success. “One of the messages I get all the time from women is, ‘I loved your books and I’d love to be an author, but I could never write like you do.’ Or, ‘I’ve always wanted to do public speaking, but I’m not as good as you are.’ Girls, stop comparing your beginning with my middle! Or anyone else’s for that matter…. there’s a great Chinese proverb that says, ‘the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.’”

The message that comparison steals our joy is reiterated consistently throughout the book. If you have ambition, you likely look up to your mentors eager to magically achieve similar success. However, there’s great power in recognizing that they also started with a modest beginning. It took years of hard work to nurture their dreams into something powerful enough for others to begin to take notice.

The F-Word

Within Christian circles, there’s often an aversion to the word “feminism,” but to Hollis, the topic is important to dive into. She’s bold to invite readers to consider issues of inequality between genders and advocates for more opportunities to be granted to women. She wants you to believe in yourself and wants to deconstruct any previous message that may have taught you otherwise. “If you were raised to believe that men know best, that men are the authority, how much faith does that teach you to have in yourself and your opinions as a woman?”

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Hollis specifically references her own upbringing where she felt great pressure to accommodate her father’s needs, regardless of how that was negatively impacting her own life. She realized that her eagerness to accommodate poured into her marriage. When her husband Dave faced a stressor, Rachel went into “fix-it” mode. However, Dave desired a partner who could emotionally support him, not someone who would just magically erase his problems. He explained, “Rachel, I’m in a bad mood, and I’ll get over it. It’s okay if I’m upset. You don’t have to make it better. It’s not your job to make sure I’m happy.” Dave’s words proved to radically redefine their marriage. Rachel discovered a new-found equality in their partnership and now she’s passionate about helping other women find similar freedom for themselves.

So, is this Book for Me?

Girl, Stop Apologizing is a delight to consume and bound to be another bestseller for Hollis. She worked thoughtfully to include ample specific advice to elevate the reader’s personal success. The final section of the book, called “Skills to Acquire” was particularly helpful in providing tactical support. Hollis is quick to remind the reader that skills are different from innate talents. “These are not unique and special abilities you were born with; they are learned abilities. Developing a new skill set or growing in a certain area is something accomplished with focus and time and hard work.” Hopefully, upon completing the book, the reader will then also take time to invest in the necessary hard work, feeling emboldened by Hollis’ positivity. Girl, Stop Apologizing features an empowering message and its practical advice will resonate with women everywhere.