For most people, no matter how self-confident they are, the prospect of meeting their partner’s parents brings up feelings ranging from a little nervousness to full-blown anxiety. Will they grill you? Will you embarrass yourself? Will they like you?
Before you assume the worst and envision a disaster, take a deep breath, and keep a few tips in mind as you prepare for the start of a good relationship. Remember, these people are the reason for your amazing partner and they too care deeply about your significant other, so you have that in common.
A great way to calm your nerves is to plan ahead. Put your mind at ease by deciding early what you want to wear. Choose something comfortable that makes you feel confident. Once the decision is made, you can stop worrying about your attire.
Like you would for a job interview, come up with a few “ice-breaker” questions to ask your partner’s parents. Most people like to talk about themselves, so prepare a few light, open-ended questions that can get them talking. And then, listen. Here’s where you’ll find common ground and interests, making conversation easier on both sides. This also demonstrates that you’re interested in them and not just making a good impression for their son or daughter’s sake.
Think about one or two stories to share that you feel encapsulate who you are as a person. It’s important for them to know about what motivates you, what makes you thrive and what—besides your significant other, of course—brings you joy.
Ultimately, try to relax and be yourself. After all, their son or daughter thinks highly enough of you to introduce you to their parents so you have that going for you!
Check out the above video for more tips to calm your nerves before the big day.