A ten plus year friendship and whirlwind marriage last September gave us Hollywood’s major couple of the moment Justin and Hailey Bieber. But under the surface, and behind the one hundred and twenty-one million followers combined there lies a striking maturity that most people might fail to see at first glance. Through a deep foundation of faith passed on from their parents, this power couple greatly relies on the power of Jesus in the ups and downs of life. Both Hailey and Justin are outspoken about their faith and marriage in their first cover with Vogue Magazine.
Hailey says, “The thing is, marriage is very hard. That is the sentence you should lead with.” The Biebers open up about life and the realities of marriage. When asked how she knew Justin was “the one” the twenty-two-year-old model responded, “I prayed to feel peace about the decision, and that’s where I landed. I love him very much. I have loved him for a long time.” Their romance is one for the books but not everything is picture perfect, as most marriages aren’t.
Justin shares how he struggles to trust people that may just want something from him, those fears have even crept into their marriage, he states “It’s been difficult for me even to trust Hailey, we’ve been working through stuff. And it’s great, right?” The couple are intentional about being mentored by pastors like Judah Smith (Home Church in Los Angeles) and Laura Lentz (Hillsong Church New York City), as well as seeking advice from marriage counselors. Again proving their wisdom goes way beyond their respective ages.
Justin also opens up about success at such a young age,“Just thinking about music stresses me out,” he said. “I’ve been successful since I was 13, so I didn’t really have a chance to find who I was apart from what I did. I just needed some time to evaluate myself: who I am, what I want out of my life, my relationships, who I want to be—stuff that when you’re so immersed in the music business you kind of lose sight of.” Justin admits having struggled with drug use in the past, being caught up in scary situations that have made others fear for his life.
Justin comments, “Drugs put a screen between me and what I was doing. It got pretty dark. I think there were times when my security was coming in late at night to check my pulse and see if I was still breathing.” While Hailey has been outspoken about the millions of fans that place pressure on their marriage (at times rooting for them to fail) through social media. It is not always a fairytale but the Biebers keep it in perspective and are working hard to set a solid foundation in their marriage, one that is built to last.
When Justin and Hailey reunited last year, Justin remained celibate by personal choice. He candidly disclosed that prior to reconnecting with Hailey he had, “a legitimate problem with sex” and wanted to instead embrace sex as God designed it—for the context of marriage. From God’s viewpoint, Justin notes “He doesn’t ask us not to have sex for Him because He wants rules and stuff, He’s like, I’m trying to protect you from hurt and pain. I think sex can cause a lot of pain. Sometimes people have sex because they don’t feel good enough. Because they lack self-worth. Women do that, and guys do that. I wanted to rededicate myself to God in that way because I really felt it was better for the condition of my soul.”
The most intriguing fact about their relationship is how thoroughly grounded in their faith roots both of them are. Justin quotes “I believe in the story of Jesus—that’s the simplicity of what I believe. But I don’t believe in all the religious elitism and pretentiousness like people are better than you because they come to church, like you have to go to church and dress a certain way. I get sensitive when religion comes up because it’s been so hurtful to a lot of people. I don’t want to be thought of as someone who stands for any of the injustice that religion has done and does do.”
We applaud the Biebers’ honesty and refreshing interview about the challenges of life and marriage. Wishing this couple the best, as they journey on, hoping they keep this transparency and realism always at the forefront. This interview was a great example of the authenticity we should have as Christians making a difference in this modern world.