Our Love-Hate Relationship with Living in Community

Our character and nature are only truly revealed in the context of community. Farris gives Seth Dahl some sound insight about real-world principled living.

Our Love-Hate Relationship with Living in Community

Our character and nature are only truly revealed in the context of community. Farris gives Seth Dahl some sound insight about real-world principled living.


Seth Dahl loves to spotlight the wisdom that an everyday person can offer up to the world. In this episode of Say Something Profound, we hear from Ferris and explore the topic of living in community.

What’s the ultimate test of a person’s character? According to Ferris, it’s how they behave in community. It’s easy to rattle off the fruit of the spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control—but this video reminds us that the hardest part is actually living those virtues out.

Patience, in particular, is put to the test when you live in community with others. When you live alone, your patience is not regularly tested. You don’t have to deal with someone else’s messiness, bad taste in television shows or smelly feet. However, when you do the hard work to live in community, your patience has an opportunity to grow, and as Ferris reminds us, “What is hard is sometimes worth its weight in gold.”

Consider the times that living with your friend, sibling, spouse, roommate or child resulted in your patience being tested. Looking back, as you shared a space of love with those you value, would you exchange one moment of that experience? Or did those challenges help to shape you into a more gracious person?

If you need encouragement for how to best exercise patience in the community you find yourself in, check out this video!


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