Why It’s OK If You’re Not Married Yet

In the game of life, there's no one right way to play. Brooklyn examines her choice to be independent as an adult as opposed to marrying right away. Here's why it's okay if you're not married yet.

Why It’s OK If You’re Not Married Yet

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In the game of life, there's no one right way to play. Brooklyn examines her choice to be independent as an adult as opposed to marrying right away. Here's why it's okay if you're not married yet.


Adulthood is hard. Especially when you’re first stepping into it. Your early 20s is the first time most of us feel the weight of true responsibility when you’re ripe with newfound freedom, exciting opportunities but also a million questions.

But of course, as she often does, vlogger Brooklyn addresses this topic in a way that helps to ease the overwhelm and assure us that she’s right there in it with us. And with some great perspective to boot.

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“Then there’s people like me, who finished college long ago and didn’t get married,” Brooklyn begins, commenting on the many avenues young adults take, including getting married, “…and yet here I am. I’m an adult. Folding, shaving and saving.”

Referencing a saying her grandparents used, “to leave and cleave,” Brooklyn’s often wondered what it looks like to just leave. What happens if you don’t cleave to someone immediately after?

“I’ve even feared going back to family reunions and getting these questions. ‘The’ questions,” Brooklyn admits. “Sort of like a passive-aggressive attack on your life.” Who can’t relate to that? “It’s uncomfortable for everyone,” she notes. “Some people are making the choice to leave and cleave to career or…making videos on the internet… It’s hard no matter what.”

And with that, she hits the nail on the head—the truth that’s so simple, yet always hard to remember when we’re caught up in our own experience: We’re all doing our best.

“It’s hard to leave the nest, whether you’re flying in a big flock of birds or if you’re alone,” she continues. “There are lonely days, but you don’t have to do the whole thing by yourself.”

Watch the video above for more of Brooklyn’s pep talk on leaving… and living well in the process.


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