Every Monday night, all across the country, it’s almost a guarantee that everyone you know will be tuning in to catch the latest episode of “The Bachelor” or “Bachelorette.” Whether you love or hate the show, one thing you can agree on is that it brings people together. People, different and alike, get completely sucked into the drama that comes along with the search for love. Everywhere you turn, at work, at the gym, in line for coffee—this show has become a national conversation.
The search for love is a tricky search, so it’s no wonder so many people are invested in this cultural phenomenon.
This is something you can see everywhere, in so many areas of life. Whether you’re single and looking, seriously committed or married, the search for love never dies. It may change based off the season of life you’re in, but nevertheless, it’s there. Love is a pursuit.
Learn from the choices made on the show in pursuit of love.
Bachelor Nation highlights this inherent search each one of us carries. They may not do it in the most heart-safe way, but they say their ultimate goal is to find love. You can argue till you’re blue in the face, the good and the bad of this popular show, but you cannot deny that these people aren’t wrong in their desire to find love.
We all share the desire to love and be loved.
One thing to take away from the dating practices within the show is this: it’s not very beneficial for your heart to date more than one person at a time. If you are a person still in the messiness of modern dating culture, you are charged with the protection of your heart until you’re married—then it becomes a joint effort between you and your spouse. If you are dating tons of people at a time, you are building pseudo-relationships with all of those people, making it extremely difficult to connect on a deep level. The easiest way to avoid the heartbreak in this area is to simply decide to only date one person at a time. In doing that, you are able to choose carefully how quickly you reveal the depths of your heart. You are able to build healthy boundaries.
Having boundaries early on ensures that when you share these things, you’re sharing them with someone whom you trust.
That’s another thing Bachelor Nation raises to the surface of relational thought: the importance of boundaries. If you watch the show you are probably aware that boundaries are often pushed and devalued, but in reality of normalcy, boundaries are vital to the success of relationships. Boundaries change throughout the course of relationships, which is healthy, but they are there to make sure things don’t move too fast, creating false connections.
The deep parts of the heart and intense conversations about past hurts and things you’ve had to overcome, are very intimate pieces of your heart to share with people.
Having boundaries early on ensures that when you share these things, you’re sharing them with someone whom you trust. There will be times when you get hurt even if you do decide to trust someone, but that is far less likely when you’re partnering your head and your heart to make decisions.
Next time when settling into the couch, on a Monday night with your beverage of choice, let Bachelor Nation teach you that even though entertainment is key for this show, there are better practices in dating you can learn from watching people follow their desire to find love. Learn from the choices made on the show in pursuit of love.
Remember that your heart is so special and you are deserving of so much love.