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A Few Things For Guys: An Open Letter to Young Christian Men


What's better than doing work? Doing meaningful work. Here are five qualities that we believe young, Christian men should emulate and possess.
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I thought I’d take a moment to reflect on what it has been like growing up as a young Christian man in this generation. Everything I’m about to say comes from a place of love for you, my brothers in Christ! Everything I’m about to say is also coming from a place of experience and my best advice that goes along with that experience. It’s likely that we have gone through, are going through and will go through somewhat similar experiences as men of faith in the same generation.

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I love our potential. I love seeing a generation of Christian men that want to do more than just work; they want to do work that is meaningful. A generation that wants to do more than make money, we want to make a difference. Men that don’t settle for knowing Jesus, but being a generation that wants to walk with Him.

Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.

Let’s talk about some characteristics of young Godly men and the struggles facing us.

1. Leadership

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As Christian men, our idea of leadership should be servant leadership. Jesus tells us in Matthew 20:26-28:

“Whoever wants to be great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave, even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.”

So many people I talk to or see on social media want to speak to huge crowds, have a large following and vast influence. We want to be leaders without ever being led. Our generation doesn’t take advice from others well. I can personally say that I’ve lashed out in anger out of embarrassment multiple times because I’ve been offered advice or constructive criticism. We don’t like to listen to the wisdom of older Christians that have spent more time walking with Jesus than we have spent drawing breath. This is foolish.

“Wisdom is with the aged, and understanding in the length of days” (Job 12:12). We should be welcoming wisdom and craving constructive criticism. “Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise” (Proverbs 19:20).

 Invest your time in others. Make disciples and be discipled. Wisdom is like water for your roots, you need it to grow. Don’t prevent yourself from growing in your relationship with Jesus and with others. If you want to lead, then serve. Follow the example given to us by the greatest leader we have in Jesus.

2. Humble

I want to be clear on this, humbleness is not the same as putting yourself down.

Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less. I’m sure you’ve heard this.

Humility is dying to self, “I have been crucified with Christ, and it is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me” (Galatians 2:20).

It’s an ongoing process, we have to strive for it daily. Christianity and pride don’t go together. People associate young men with pride, let’s break that stereotype. God opposes the proud and gives grace to the humble (1 Peter 5:5). Let’s be a generation of young, humble, Christian men.

3. Work Ethic

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Listen, this is so important. Work hard.

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as though you were working for The Lord rather than for people” (Colossians 3:23).

Work ethic applies to every single aspect of your life. For some reason, our generation is not interested in putting in the work required to get the results desired. Get up before 8 a.m., pray, get in the Word and get your day rolling. Get moving and be productive. If you want to date a girl, then get a job. We date to marry, that relationship won’t bankroll itself and that ring will have to be paid for if it gets to that point.

Struggling with porn? There is no middle ground. You have to work hard to kill that or it will kill your relationships. You have to storm the gates of Heaven, you have to make war against it. No matter what your life looks like day to day, make sure you’re working hard every day at the things that really matter.

4. Love

Love Jesus and love people. That same love that rescued you and me needs to be shared with the world. Be the light of the world, be a city on a hill Matthew 5:14. I’m thankful that I don’t feel the need to spend too much time on this. Why? Because if there is one thing that I think young Christian men in this generation have a solid grasp on, it’s love. And as long as we have that down, we’ll be able to figure out the rest.