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3 Ways to Turn Your Greatest Insecurities into Your Greatest Strengths

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Now is the time to come out of hiding and learn how to own our insecurities, instead of letting our insecurities own us. Let's help set yourself free.
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Shame burns up in the light of truth. Vulnerability takes the weapon of guilt from the hands of those who judge us and lays it at the feet of the accused.

From the time we are in kindergarten, you and I are taught that mistakes do not go unnoticed.

Wrong answers are circled in red pen. Setbacks are seen as an indicator of laziness. Falling down or veering off the path is pointed at, rather than embraced. In a culture of perfectionism, having weaknesses and insecurities isn’t seen as a symbol of strength, so we learn how to cover up and pretend.

If I had to bet, I’d say the title alone brought something specific to your mind just now—be it an insecurity, a past mistake or a fear of failure.

Before you push that thing down, take a moment and ask yourself what you have to lose by learning to celebrate, rather than shame.

It’s time you and I came out of hiding, and learned how to own our insecurities, instead of letting our insecurities own us.

Here are three straightforward ways to set yourself free.

1. Acknowledge Them

In the 1998 film Ever After, a servant girl named Danielle falls in love with the prince of France while pretending to be of noble birth. In a pivotal scene, Danielle realizes the importance of coming clean about her identity, and shows up at a royal ball to confess the truth. However, she’s a moment too late.

Taking advantage of her carefully kept secret, Danielle’s stepmother exposes her in front of the crowd, shaming the girl. Had Danielle only succeeded in bringing the truth to light first, any accuser’s voice would have fallen on deaf ears.

Shame burns up in the light of truth. Vulnerability takes the weapon of guilt from the hands of those who judge us and lays it at the feet of the accused.

What would life look like if you and I took responsibility for our pasts, instead of trying to run from them?

2. Forgive Yourself

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The way you broke up with him/her six years ago? That time you embarrassed yourself at a family gathering? That entire pizza you ate with a friend last weekend? Forgive yourself.

Whether it’s a struggle with body image, addiction, bad habits or a one-time break in character, that thing you did—the one that’s been crouching on your mind for weeks, months, years—it’s time to release it.

By holding yourself captive to that action, you’re not paying penance or keeping yourself modest. Forcing yourself to relive a mistake over and over again breeds shame, not humility.

If there is someone you hurt, now is the time to bring your apology to them. If the person you hurt was yourself, guess what? You deserve an apology, too. Forgive yourself for what you know to be a misstep, then get right back up and keep walking in the right direction.

It really is that simple.

3. Tell Your Story

One of the biggest lies we are tempted to believe is that we are the only ones. Meanwhile, there are millions of people across the globe who hear the same voice of condemnation, telling them the same story the voice tells you: that no one could possibly love you if they knew what you’ve done.

Lies.

There is freedom in community. Sometimes, if you are the first person in your circle to come forward with a story, the act of bringing that insecurity into the light can be very scary. But once it’s out there, it loses all power over you.

Even more beautiful is the truth that you may find others who have walked your path, and will want to love and support you in your effort to become a happier, freer individual.

Here’s the truth: none of us are perfect. Your story, insecurities and all, holds incredible power. After all, it’s yours, and life is not a book written to have its pages torn out. You have something important to share with the world.

What is it you want to say?